Military is defined as:
United States Army
- United States Army Reserve
- Army National Guard
- United States Marine Corps Reserve
- United States Navy Reserve
- Air Force Reserve Command
- Air National Guard
- United States Coast Guard Reserve
- United States Coast Guard Auxiliary
Now yes, I understand each plays a different role, and each has a different set of ranks, military specialties, etc. That's not my point. My point is, they serve the same nation. They serve the same people. They serve you. They serve me.
However, so many times I see them not being treated equal. Even amongst themselves, each branch pits against each other. Sometimes this is all in good fun and leads to a healthy level of competition. But, speaking as a spouse of National Guard soldier - I can tell you firsthand that the inequality can be hurtful, even when unintentional.
See, us Army National Guard families, and other part-time military families, are often the "forgotten" ones. We're looked at just as the "weekend warriors." Did you see that list above? The one of the armed forces of the United States? The one where National Guard is listed? We're just as much a part of serving this nation as any other branch.
Let me reiterate:
Every day they serve, we serve. Even if only serving on "the weekends," they are always ready for the call. The motto of the National Guard is even "Always Ready, Always There."
Military Spouse magazine also says: "During that time (nomination period), Military Spouse magazine encourages both the military community as well as all Americans to consider nominating their military spouse friends, relatives, neighbors, and colleagues for this prestigious honor."
I have served alongside my husband for eight years, including two deployments (one currently on-going). I'm a military spouse and serve the role as a friend, relative, neighbor, and colleague. My role as a military spouse affects each and every role, differently, each and every day. However, I do not qualify to accept my nomination. I am baffled.
I am now thinking to myself: how many other spouses have not qualified due to this additional requirement? How many were elated, humbled, and honored to be nominated, but then felt to be shamed and discounted because their service "wasn't enough." Please know that your sacrifices ARE enough and that you are not alone.
So, Military Spouse magazine: while I cannot accept my nomination due to your additional requirements for National Guard spouses, I want to publicly take this moment to nominate every National Guard and Reservist spouse to be the winner of the 2015 Military Spouse of the Year Award for their "branch"- regardless of your rules.
In fact, I nominate every single military spouse, of every single branch, for every single year (past, current, and future). If you need clarification as to what the United States Military is, please see above. Why do I nominate every single military spouse?
Please know that I think that the purpose and mission of Military Spouse magazine is an amazing one. I want to personally thank your entire organization. Thank you for supporting and loving my fellow military spouses. Each and every one of us can benefit from your resources. Thank you for recognizing those spouses that go above and beyond to serve here on the home front. They deserve recognition for their contributions to the armed forces community. I do not discount your award in any way, shape, or form.
However, I call on Military Spouse magazine to re-evaluate their nominations requirements and remove the additional stipulation for Guard and Reservist families. And no, this has nothing with me accepting my nomination. This has everything to do with Military Equality.